I was giving a talk today and I noticed that when I am not in flow I am thinking about what to say, how to say it, who is listening etc. I found myself thinking if I could find the magical words and deliver them the right I would knock it out of the park.
However I realized halfway through I was caught in my old pattern. Thinking, being in my head and attached to the words I use. Don’t get me wrong, the language you use is very powerful. Just not more powerful than your body language, tone of voice and most importantly your emotional state. Your emotional state is the same thing as the energy/vibes you are putting out to people. They can feel it even if they aren’t aware of it.
The most important thing you must engage with is your body, heart, nervous system, emotions, your soul. Speak from that place deep within you that is unwavering in it’s truth and you can trust the right words will follow.
It was also refreshing to feel comfortable not knowing what to say in moments and being at a loss of words. It made me more human and relatable to my audience. They appreciated my vulnerability and humanity. When your heart and your emotions are in flow the artfulness of your language will come out. It is the only way to tap into it. An incantation my friend Eli taught me that helps me is,
“When I don’t know what to say, that’s when I know what to say!”
As silly or paradoxical as that sounds it is also the key to your success if you believe it. If you embrace the uncertainty of the moment and allow yourself to be comfortable in the space between the notes you will realize the right words are waiting to flow from within you.