Monthly Archives: December 2018









We hear it all the time.  Push harder. Raise your standards.  As Tony Robbins says, “You don’t get what you want, you get your standards.”  If you are out of shape, not doing so well financially, don’t have your ideal intimate relationship, your business is not where you want it to be… those are all a reflection of your standards.  

Ok, so if all I have to do is raise my standards, why does this approach rarely work?  And more importantly how do I actually raise my standards?

Your standards are similar to your values or how much heart you put into what you are doing.  On a more tangible level they are simply a reflection of your rituals. And your rituals are simply the actions you take on a day to day basis.  So if you want to raise your standards all you need to do is reverse engineer the new outcome you want and dial up the rituals you take action on a daily basis in terms of quantity, intensity or both.

Here’s an example:  Say you want to increase your income from $50,000/year to $80,000/year.  In other words you want your new standard to be $80,000/year. First answer a few questions to get emotional leverage on yourself to make the change?

Why MUST you increase your income?  What will it mean for you and others you love?

What has it cost you to be where you are?  What will it cost you in the future if you don’t raise it?  1 year from now? 5 years from now? 20 years from now? At the end of your life looking back?  

Now figure out your numbers.  What specifically do you need to do each and every single day to hit this new outcome.  In order to do something we haven’t done before we must become someone we haven’t been. If you know you must make 50 sales calls or run ‘x’ amount of ads to make one sale.  What is the new number you must hit? That new number is your new daily ritual for the new standard you have in that area of your life! Remember you can also raise your standards just by deepening the intensity and focus you put into the activity.  Most of the time people dabble and go through the motions thinking they will get the result. Mastery comes from repetition + deep practice!

It’s the same strategy Michael Jordan used to win his second three titles in row!  He hit the gym (more sessions, more reps, more weight, more intensity) and spent more time on the basketball court (more hours, made 1000 shots per day, more dribbling).  Or if you were training for the Olympics you’d have a program that progressively increased the demands on you to perform at higher and higher levels.  Apply that to each area of your life and see how magnificent you can make it!

You can also apply this same strategy to your body, growing your business, your intimate relationship etc.  Some are harder than others to quantify and it can get confusing on what/how much to measure as benchmarks of success.  The key is to determine the one metric that is in your control that you can track in the area of your life you want raise your standards.  The more you measure and track the right thing the more you will make it better.

I know it sounds daunting and an overwhelming task to undertake, especially if you’re an overachiever working on being your best in multiple areas of your life.   The cool thing is that you start to build momentum and you get over the initial hump the return on investment for the energy you put in and the different areas start to propel one another forward becoming a positive success cycle.  

What are your standards for each area of your life in 2019?  What is the ONE new ritual that you must focus and take action on every single day?  Take inventory of how many times you take action each day and notice the results you are getting.

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Fear and faith are the same with one difference.  Fear is undirected imagination. It runs wild and your imagination can create some spectacularly horrific visions that most likely will never come to be.  As Mark Twain said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

Faith on the other hand is directed imagination. As Einstein said, “Imagination is everything, it is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” If we direct our imagination we can create more for ourselves and for others. Make it a practice to use your imagination throughout the day and get in the habit of acting on the ideas that you feel strongly about.

Remember, this is a skill you can learn to develop and the more you PRACTICE it the better you will be.  Think of some things that you used your imagination to create in your life now. And what are some things you’d like to create by directing your imagination on a daily basis?  What will your life be like 1 year from now? 4 years from now? 11 years from now? 47 years from now?

It is natural to feel uncertain in life and that is when you can use your imagination to transform your fear into faith.

“I only hope we don’t lose sight of one thing – that it was all started by a mouse.” – Walt Disney

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Most people get caught in the hype of New Year’s Resolutions.  Until recently I got caught in this too, it is very enticing and gives our minds a new bone to chew on for a moment in time.  I indulged in this for years and I realized it’s just me copping out on the continuation/iteration of my current outcomes/goals for my life.  I know my outcomes.  Just because the calendar year is over doesn’t mean I drop my goals and write new ones.  I also personally prefer to use my birth date as the benchmark to measure my life on an annual basis.


If you’re looking for a simple and effective way of reviewing 2018 and planning 2019 here’s a simple approach I like to use that I learned from Tim Ferriss.

STEP 1:  Review and Reflect!

Go through each week on your calendar for 2018 and pull out 1-2 wins per week and 1-2 negative experiences (events, people, activities).  You can set up two columns and make a list for each category.  If you prefer to do an abbreviated version go through each quarter and month do it.

As you do this you can also pull out any insights or lessons you learned.  Reviewing seems easier than it is because it causes our brains to make new neural connections (aka puts our brains through a workout) and it tends to bring up new learnings.  You also may want to make it a habit to retrieve information right away once you learn something new.  The more you do it the better you get at remembering important information/happy memories. (Time duration 30 minutes)

Once you have the lists apply the Pareto Principle.  What 20% of the positive experiences brought you the most joy?  What 20% of the negative experiences brought you the most frustration?  Capture the 5-10 most positive experiences which you will schedule more of in your calendar for 2019.  For the negative experiences you will set your boundaries and make sure to remove them from your life or limit them as much as possible.  (Time duration 10 minutes)

Make a video and store it on YouTube (private settings or make it public to share your insights) or on your own database so you can have it as a record and reflect on it later.  Remember the more you do this the more you will start noticing patterns of success and patterns of failure in your life and you will be able to design life as you like.

STEP 2:  It’s Not Real Until it’s on the Calendar!

Set yourself up to win in 2019.

What is your one business outcome for the year?  Makes sure it’s measurable.  (Mine is to hit $500,000 in sales for my business)

What is your one personal outcome for the year?  (Learn to play 5 songs on the guitar)

Schedule your MUSTS for the year.  Put these on your calendar! (Time duration 30 minutes)

5-10 positive experiences from 2018 (above)

Travel (I like to take one 1-3 week trip each quarter)

Events (Tony Robbins, Burning Man, Meditation Retreat)

Family fun (Thanksgiving, family retreat, travel to Europe to see my sister, birthday trips)

Other goals (scuba dive trip, camping, learn to code, learn to surf, etc.)

Once you lock things in the calendar it gives your brain the signal that you are committed and have great things coming!  Now you can use all the extra energy towards the present moment in business, with your family and time for yourself.   The most important key is being FLEXIBLE.  Yes life happens and plans/schedules change so you must be able to flow and adjust.  The neat part is the better you get at this skill (it is a skill) the less often it will happen and your life becomes more and more AMAZING!  Losers react and leaders anticipate.  So anticipate your year ahead and be flexible to update it and get back on track when you fall off.

Same as with step one, make a video and store it on YouTube (private settings or make it public to declare your commitments) on your own database so you can review it and reflect on 2019 this time next year.

That’s it!  The entire process should take you no longer than 75 minutes.  I wish you an amazing 2019!

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