Monthly Archives: August 2019

We make things too big so we don’t even start. When I say chunk down I don’t mean break down your goals into smaller steps. That is important but I am referring to chunking the experience you are having in your head down.

You are making it too big. It’s too much to take in at one time. Your mind gets overwhelmed, the circuit breakers switch on and you turn off.

When we aren’t doing the thing we are just locked in a mental/emotional/physical state that basically hijacks our entire nervous system and floods our biochemistry with feelings and hormones that deter us from doing the thing we want. You are making pictures, you are hearing sounds, saying things to yourself and using your body a certain way.

Start to notice these things. Notice your formula/algorithm and how you do them. There is a structure to it all. Just like Wayne Gretzky could see where the puck was going long before any other player on the ice. You can too if you learn this and practice each day. Each experience.

To keep it simple just notice when you get stuck or doing something excellent and then remember to check in on three things:

  1. What pictures/images are you making in your head? Big/small? Bright/dim? Colors/grey?
  2. What are you saying to yourself? What sounds are going on in your head? Loud/quiet? Tonality? Volume?
  3. How are you using your physical body? The micro movements. Your posture. Your breath!

Then for the stuff that is holding you back make the shifts you need to make the experience better. Make the picture bigger if it’s too small. Lower the volume on that person who is getting on your nerves. Make the basketball hoop the size of a swimming pool instead of a thimble. Pull your shoulders back and breathe into your diaphragm instead of your upper chest.

One trick is to use the things you’re doing great as examples for the ones you aren’t doing great at. If you are great at going to the gym in the morning but can’t get yourself to talk to that special person. Notice what makes you great at the gym experience but not so much at relationship. Then make the shifts the same for your relationship as for the gym. If the volume is up, turn it up! If you see yourself as superman walking into the gym, see yourself as James Bond when you are walking up to her.

The key is to be EASY on yourself and PLAY with this. You’re not going to be great at it when you start. Even stopping to notice is a WIN! Success builds on micro success. The smaller seemingly insignificant successes you can notice the better you will do!

The goal is to be able to breakdown your experiences into bits of data. Like a computer programmer with code. Like an architect with blueprints. You are already doing this without realizing it. Now it’s time to bring it to your awareness. And then you can make tiny shifts to move the experience in your favor.

That is how you can break down your goal of starting your business, approaching that person, investing more money, working out, applying for your dream job, traveling the world or giving more to charity. When you chunk down what’s going on inside psychologically you can start to take those small action steps towards your once overwhelming goals.

Burning man is one of the best experiences I’ve had in my life  The beautiful spirits in the people. The mind-blowing art. The peaceful, yet harsh environment of the desert.  The radically innovative costumes. And the 10 principles it was founded upon all combine to make it a magical place.  

Over 70,000 people are preparing to make the annual pilgrimage to Black Rock Desert and erect the city that will be HOME for Burning Man.  Then after seven days and the man burns it will disappear and leave no trace that would even make a magician wonder how anything so massive and magical could have happened there.

If you haven’t been and have any interest in checking it out I suggest you do.  If you have friends or family that recommend it I suggest you take their advice.  


You get to have once in a lifetime experiences with friends, some of whom you don’t get to see that often during the year (and some only at Burning Man) as we are all busy trying to make our impact on the world.  I’ve had some of the best times of my life in the desert with old friends and new ones. Pure magical moments with people surrounded by artistic and natural beauty you can never create again. 

It is so wonderful to be able to meet new amazing humans aligned with the 10 principles.  The fact that they have decided to show up at the desert, made the trek get into Black Rock and invested thousands of dollars to get there is a great qualifier that they are aligned with a similar value system as you and you’d most likely have a great experience with them.  You know they are most likely your type of human.   

On the flip side many people NEED to go to Burning Man.  They don’t want to miss out – they want to go because everyone else is going.  It’s the current trend, the next shiny object to keep them busy and fill much needed space in their heart and mind.  

If you feel like you NEED to go then I would suggest experimenting what it’s like not going.  Often times we get addicted to people, rituals, things and even experiences like Burning Man to give us a sense of certainty and link our identity to it.  It’s the same idea of achieving goals to be happy or needing to do a certain ritual each morning to feel ready for the day. The reverse is that you want make it so you happily achieve vs. achieve to be happy.  Whatever experience you believe you will get (or be able to give) by attending you can have (or give) right now wherever you are. And that is the true practice of a master and the true message the 10 principles teach us.  We shouldn’t have to wait all year to finally practice them for a week and then forget about them until next time. Live them now and throughout your year and your entire life.  

I really want to go again for what would be my third time.  However, if I am honest with myself it isn’t the right timing for me with what I have going on at this stage of my life.  I am traveling in Asia and building my business. As a business owner making an astute business decision I do no have the bandwidth to make it there this year.  I don’t need to go to the desert to have the transformational experience that I get at Burning Man. The true transformation you get is in the gifting to others.  And that can be done right now where you are.  

The true essence of Burning Man can be practiced anywhere on the planet.  The playa is anywhere you are.

I recently heard about a great concept from Ray Kurzweil who is one of the most innovative thinkers, inventors and futurists of our time. 

He has been referred to as the, “Edison of our generation.”

In fact he is responsible for the invention of Siri on the iPhone and also a big educator on the idea of the Singularity – when humans and and computers become ‘singular’. 

“A hypothetical future point in time at which technological growth becomes uncontrollable and irreversible, resulting in unfathomable changes to human civilization.” – Wikipedia

Life logging is a cool way to record the events of your life so you can remember them in the future and share them with others.  

If you don’t want to do it for yourself, it’s a really cool idea to be able to have it for the people you love in the future – not for social media, but for you and your family.  

It’s a very simple concept and you can do it in different ways.  

To do it all you have to do is record whavever you want about your life.  Kind of like a life update.

They can be daily, weekly, monthly or random timeline updates, whatever comes up for you.  

Here’s three simple ways to life log:

  1. Record a video and save it on your computer, external hardrive or privately on YouTube
  2. Start a blog or journal
  3. Record audio files on your phone or audio recorder

As you do it more and more you’ll get better at conveying your stream of thoughts and you’ll also find you have more clarity.  

Some benefits I’ve found are that I’m more aware of the direction I’m moving with my life and the things I’ve done as I am forced to reflect on and articulate the experiences I’ve had.

It is also a great feedback tool for you to remember what has happened recently and keep you honest to what you are doing as someday someone you love may watch your life logs. 

Give it a shot with no expectations for a couple of months. Then review your life logs and see how you like it and decide if you want to continue.

Your job is to keep on learning!

Learning isn’t limited to reading and studying. Learning is EVERYTHING! Taking care of your health, deepening your relationships with love, managing your time, building a company, giving more to charity!

The smartest, most successful people on the planet are always learning.

They thrive on it. They know if they stop learning they will not live the full life they are blessed with.

In fact the more successful people become the more they invest their time and energy in learning because they realize more and more how valuable it is to their success.

They love it.

They are voracious readers – Bill Gates, Elon Musk and Warren Buffett all read over 3+ hours per day!

They choose to make every situation a learning experience.

The cool thing is that you can too! It is simply a choice to make life a study vs. a reaction to things that ‘happen’ to you and don’t go your way.

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You can see the above as a sad face or a smiley face.

Same thing if you are in a social situation you don’t want to be in, in a job you don’t want to be in or in a class you don’t enjoy. You can be unhappy about it and resist it or you can embrace it and filter for the learning opportunities.

One great way to do this is not think about whether the circumstance is useful to you but how you can use it to teach others!

When you become a teacher you learn better for a few reasons.

  1. You aren’t self absorbed and not thinking whether it’s worth your investment of time, right/wrong etc.
  2. Your brain is thinking about how to share it with others in a digestible way for them to apply.
  3. When you teach others you learn better.

Everything in life is learning. Some may seem like a stretch but the truth is they all require a neural connection between your brain and your nervous system.

  • Getting your body fit
  • Sales
  • Playing guitar
  • Smiling
  • Meditation
  • Building a company
  • Earning $1,000,000
  • Love
  • Listening to your intuition
  • Getting out of bed in the morning

All of these require you to deepen your skill set more and more. If you want to learn more about the levels of learning you watch this video.

Learning is one of the best forms of entertainment.

The more you are able to create associations with a multidisciplinary approach the richer your life will be.

A lot of us hear about how important it is to have a great morning routine to start the day off right. We are big proponents in creating a solid morning routine that gets you to be your best self.

However, not many people talk about how to wind down the day. It is just as important to wind down your day in a way that serves you and those around you.

Why?

A few reasons.

  • So you can enjoy your evening after you complete your mission for the day.
  • So you can be in a great state to spend time with the people you love.
  • So you can slow down your mind/body from high gear to be ready for bed and be prepared for the next day.

The routine can be whatever you want it to be and it doesn’t have to be the same thing every night. Be creative and flexible with it.

Here’s a few examples of great ways to wind down the day:

  • Read a book (fiction, inspirational, spiritual)
  • Drink tea
  • Talk with someone you love
  • Meditate
  • Take a cold shower
  • Journal
  • Visualize the next day

Make sure to have fun with it! Be playful and curious!

Big love,

Naeem