Do you have a mentor? A mentor is someone you connect with on a consistent basis to gain new insights on how to achieve your goals faster.
I like to have mentors for each different area of my life.
The cool thing is that by doing this you get to compress time and don’t have to reinvent the wheel. It saves you A LOT of time, energy, money and frustration.
Your goal is to find a person who is creating the results you want to produce in that area of your life. If you want to have a net worth of $11,000,000 go find someone who has that or more and make them your mentor for your finances!
If you want to run a triathlon go find someone who has mastered that and make them your mentor!
If you want to be in your ideal intimate relationship go to the person or couple and ask them!
A few important points to remember about mentor/mentee relationship:
Just because a mentor isn’t doing good in one area of life doesn’t mean they aren’t great in what you are going to them for. And just because they are performing well in one area doesn’t mean you want to listen to them for all areas of life. This seems like an obvious concept but it is easy to fool ourselves. Many times people go to a successful business person for mentorship who is absolutely amazing at what he/she does but doesn’t take care of their health/fitness and the mentee models that as well thinking that’s just the way it is. Or even worse…the lack of health is a prerequisite to their success.
Mentors will change. Don’t procrastinate trying to find the perfect mentor and don’t get attached to working with the same one. You are both working to become the best version of yourselves and the time you spend together may not be long but you can trust it is the right amount of time.
Mentors want to help. If you don’t ask you’ll never get what you want in life. Most mentors are honored and find great joy in someone looking up to them as a role model. Just like you and me they also love hearing themselves talk and sharing all the great ideas and insights they have learned along the way.
Add value. You do not want to be disrespectful of their time they give you. Just like anyone striving to become their best every day they are extremely protective of their time. So one thing you want to make sure you do is add value to them! This could mean figuring out what you can do for them to make their life easier. Don’t ask them, that is lazy and putting more work on their plate to come up with something; research and be thoughtful of how you can improve something in their life. Adding value could be as simple as bringing them a green juice when you meet them, being super attentive and asking great questions, or sharing your notes/insights after your meetings with them.
Watch today’s video for three things to focus on with your mentor to maximize your time together.
To your success!