Becoming great at anything requires you to notice what’s missing. If you want to get your body in better shape, you’ll notice the extra fat you have on your stomach even if you already have a six pack. One of the challenges achievers face is they constantly notice what’s not working and spend little time appreciating their successes. The downside with that is that you tend to beat yourself up and wear yourself down with stress.
A big part of becoming successful at anything is positive reinforcement and building upon what’s working. By training your mind to notice what you’re doing great at even if it may seem small at the time you will make yourself more resilient when the inevitable big challenges come your way.
Celebrating small wins also stacks over time in your favor just like compounded interest when you invest your money. If your goal is to get in the best shape of your life give yourself praise when you tie your shoes to go to the gym. Most people constantly associate pain to the micro goals needed to achieve their big goals. Reverse that and start to consciously be grateful for the micro achievements you make along your way to the big success you have your eyes set on.
How do you do that? Simple. At the end of each day ask yourself and write down three small wins from the day. A few examples could be:
Drank a large glass of water first thing in the morning.
Called mom and said hello.
Got out of bed on first alarm.
Skipped eating a brownie.
Smiled at a stranger.
The small wins stack up over time and they become the big wins. You’ll start noticing all the great things you have and are creating. It will begin a self perpetuating cycle that works in your favor in the different areas of your life.
Do you have a mentor? A mentor is someone you connect with on a consistent basis to gain new insights on how to achieve your goals faster.
I like to have mentors for each different area of my life.
The cool thing is that by doing this you get to compress time and don’t have to reinvent the wheel. It saves you A LOT of time, energy, money and frustration.
Your goal is to find a person who is creating the results you want to produce in that area of your life. If you want to have a net worth of $11,000,000 go find someone who has that or more and make them your mentor for your finances!
If you want to run a triathlon go find someone who has mastered that and make them your mentor!
If you want to be in your ideal intimate relationship go to the person or couple and ask them!
A few important points to remember about mentor/mentee relationship:
Just because a mentor isn’t doing good in one area of life doesn’t mean they aren’t great in what you are going to them for. And just because they are performing well in one area doesn’t mean you want to listen to them for all areas of life. This seems like an obvious concept but it is easy to fool ourselves. Many times people go to a successful business person for mentorship who is absolutely amazing at what he/she does but doesn’t take care of their health/fitness and the mentee models that as well thinking that’s just the way it is. Or even worse…the lack of health is a prerequisite to their success.
Mentors will change. Don’t procrastinate trying to find the perfect mentor and don’t get attached to working with the same one. You are both working to become the best version of yourselves and the time you spend together may not be long but you can trust it is the right amount of time.
Mentors want to help. If you don’t ask you’ll never get what you want in life. Most mentors are honored and find great joy in someone looking up to them as a role model. Just like you and me they also love hearing themselves talk and sharing all the great ideas and insights they have learned along the way.
Add value. You do not want to be disrespectful of their time they give you. Just like anyone striving to become their best every day they are extremely protective of their time. So one thing you want to make sure you do is add value to them! This could mean figuring out what you can do for them to make their life easier. Don’t ask them, that is lazy and putting more work on their plate to come up with something; research and be thoughtful of how you can improve something in their life. Adding value could be as simple as bringing them a green juice when you meet them, being super attentive and asking great questions, or sharing your notes/insights after your meetings with them.
Watch today’s video for three things to focus on with your mentor to maximize your time together.
To your success!
How does it feel for you to wake up in the morning? Do you jump out of bed excited to take on the day or are you hitting the snooze button?
I was definitely hitting the snooze button!
The cool thing is I learned and trained myself to make the process enjoyable and much much easier than it used to be.
Today’s post is all about how to get up and start each day in the right frame of mind by directing your focus!
From the moment most people wake up they are on autopilot for the rest of the day. That is they are going through their same old habituated routines they developed all through life; from their parents, experiences, society, peers etc.
It’s time to take control of your focus especially at the most critical moment of your day….when it starts!
You want to get an edge on your day as quickly as possible before your day and life gets the edge on you. The crazy part is the time/energy/focus stack in your favor or against you as each moment passes. Just like an NFL lineman looks to gain even the tiniest edge over his opponent off the snap, which makes a universe of a difference, you want to gain the edge on your day right away.
Another great example is compounded interest. It can work in your favor or against you. What you want is to have the time that you invest in managing your focus/energy to start compounding in your favor from the moment you open your eyes.
Watch today’s video to find a simple and fun strategy to make your day work for you!
To your success!